Dating in Your 40s

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Dating in Your 40s's own curation of outside voices: researchers, clinicians and creators whose videos, posts and articles we think are worth your time. Real people, with public profiles we checked and the date we checked them. A label says where someone's authority comes from. It is not a ranking and not an endorsement, and nobody pays to be listed.

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Eli J. Finkel

Research on how modern marriage and long term relationships work, and what partners expect from each other.

Professor of Psychology and of Management and Organizations, Northwestern University; director of the Relationships and Motivation Lab · credential source

Watch: The All-or-Nothing Marriage (TEDx)

Profiles last checked October 1, 2026

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Esther Perel

Desire, infidelity and the tensions inside long term relationships, often through real couples sessions on her podcast.

Watch: Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved

Profiles last checked October 1, 2026

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Julie Menanno

How couples get stuck in conflict cycles and how to feel secure with a partner.

Licensed marriage and family therapist (MA, LMFT, LCPC); author of Secure Love · credential source

Watch: The Secrets to SECURE LOVE with expert Julie Menanno

Profiles last checked October 1, 2026

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Justin J. Lehmiller

Research on sex, desire, casual relationships and friends with benefits.

Social psychologist (PhD, Purdue); Senior Research Fellow, The Kinsey Institute, Indiana University · credential source

Watch: 10 Questions About Sex

Profiles last checked October 1, 2026

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Kate Anthony

Coaching and podcast conversations for women deciding whether to stay in or leave a marriage, and rebuilding life after divorce.

Watch: Kate Anthony: Your Divorce Survival Guide - Should I Stay or Should I Go

Profiles last checked October 1, 2026

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Lori Gottlieb

What happens in the therapy room, including breakups, dating choices and the stories people tell about love.

Psychotherapist; author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and The Atlantic's Dear Therapist column · credential source

Watch: How changing your story can change your life (TED)

Profiles last checked October 1, 2026

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Mark Groves

Relationship educator and podcast host who talks about codependent patterns, honesty, and building healthier connections.

Watch: What is codependency in relationships? with Mark Groves

Profiles last checked October 1, 2026

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Matthew Hussey

Dating and love life advice on raising your standards, confidence, and finding a partner, through his podcast, books and videos.

Watch: Matthew Hussey: "There is no such thing as right person, wrong time!"

Profiles last checked October 1, 2026

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Pepper Schwartz

Research and writing on love, sex and relationships, including dating and partnership later in life.

Sociologist (PhD, Yale); Professor Emerita of Sociology, University of Washington · credential source

Watch: Love and Dating After 50

Profiles last checked October 1, 2026

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Ramani Durvasula

Narcissistic and high conflict relationships, and recovering after leaving one.

Licensed clinical psychologist; Professor Emerita of Psychology, California State University, Los Angeles · credential source

Watch: It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People

Profiles last checked October 1, 2026

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