The second first date.
You know yourself better now. You also carry more: a marriage, a breakup, a schedule built around other people. Date like someone who knows both.
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Worth reading elsewhere
Full reading list →Dating nowPew Research Center, 2020
Dating and relationships: Key findings on views and experiences in the US (opens pewresearch.org)National survey data on how American adults feel about dating today, including why many say it has gotten harder.
Brutal breakupGreater Good Science Center, UC Berkeley
This Is Your Brain on Heartbreak (opens greatergood.berkeley.edu)Describes what heartbreak does to the brain and body, and why the pain feels so physical.
After divorceCleveland Clinic
Life After Divorce: How You Can Start Again (opens health.clevelandclinic.org)Practical guidance on grieving a marriage, rebuilding routines, and deciding when you are ready for something new.
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Tool: the 8-question pattern check
Eight questions about the last few people you dated. You get one of nine pattern cards. It runs in your browser and nothing is saved.